Last week, I shut down my computer, packed a small bag and headed for the mountains to hang with my dear friends and let my brain stop aching. I felt like I was coming down from a serious binge and had to heal from a heavy hangover. What was the drug? Social Media; a “drug” …
When I come into the door after a long day at the office, I am emotionally inverted. I feel as though my feelings have been sucked into a vacuum and I can hardly connect with my own family who needs my attention as well. Sometimes I feel numb. Sometimes I think that if one more person asks one more thing of me I will scream.
Some people make attachments with others that go from one extreme to the other: “I don’t want you; please don’t leave me!” They overshoot that midpoint of secure attachment and don’t get much joy or comfort from their connections with others.
Sometimes our love-relationships are like the long, hot desert summer. Love can be intense and searing with hot passion. It can include dry spells that leave us, as partners, quenching for replenishment.
Statistics demonstrate that more Americans are living in step-families than in nuclear families. Blended families are clearly a key ingredient of our culture; so how can we make them more successful in the long haul?
Some people substitute pity and the pedestal for their own legitimate experience of anger at someone’s bad behavior.
Remember that cheating is a symptom of some unaddressed issue in your relationship that deserves immediate attention. Carrying on about the affair distracts you from identifying this crucial relationship concern. Whether you stay in the relationship or not, you need this information in order to grow as you move forward.