The success of a relationship may very well be based on how you tend to form attachments; a style that became hard-wired into the brain at a very early time of life. If your parents used a particular style of attaching with you in infancy and early childhood, that will contribute to the infrastructure for … Continue reading
Monthly Archives: January 2018
How to Raise a Confident Child
Confidence is the ability to trust or have faith in someone or something, including oneself. Parents hope to raise a confident child who will launch into becoming an independently functioning adult. Less confident children have higher rates of failure-to-launch. In early stages of life, it is the responsibility of the parents to take a very directive approach to help shape the child’s understanding … Continue reading
Addiction and the False Idol
If you think about it, addiction is like the worship of a false idol. We create altars to whatever our addiction is represented by: alcohol, shopping, gambling, drugging, cults, gangs, food, dogma, etc. Name your poison; we create rites and rituals around our respective addictive patterns. We sacrifice our health, well-being, energy, time and money … Continue reading
Signs of Addiction Can Be Subtle Among Professional Helpers
An interesting article appeared online about the more subtle signs of addiction. The author, Ms. Melanie Haiken claims that knowing whether someone you love has a problem with drugs or alcohol is not always as obvious as you might think. People tend to stereotype the typical alcoholic as someone staggering around with a bottle in a … Continue reading
Six Degrees of Shame
Shame is a very unpleasant feeling and probably the most unpleasant of them all. Shame is a feeling experience where we berate ourselves and question the goodness of our essence. Arrogance or hostility can be someone’s cover for shame. Interesting, huh? The feeling of shame spreads across a spectrum: embarrassment, vulnerability, resentment, reactive, threatened, and … Continue reading