I just returned from LA where, with my training team, I presented a three-day training in Collaborative Divorce. One initial observation I made from this training: many divorce lawyers who practice non-collaboratively are highly anxious and strung out about their work. Throughout the training, time and again, I saw and heard professionals express levels of … Continue reading
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The Bystander Effect
I believe that the Bystander Effect needs to be considered as seriously as leaving the scene of an accident or leaving the scene of a crime. Continue reading
Relationships and Attachment
Some people make attachments with others that go from one extreme to the other: “I don’t want you; please don’t leave me!” They overshoot that midpoint of secure attachment and don’t get much joy or comfort from their connections with others. Continue reading
Road to Resilience Can Be Rocky
Attending and graduating from the “School of Hard Knocks” plays a key role in how a person learns to be resilient. Studies show that kids who grew up in adverse living conditions seem to demonstrate a richer depth of resilience in adulthood. Continue reading
Anger is Always About the One Who Feels It
Irresponsible expression of anger robs us of an emotional experience that can passionately drive forward healthy transformation and growth. Continue reading
Signs of Addiction Can Be Subtle Among Professional Helpers
An interesting article appeared online regarding the more subtle signs of addiction. The author, Ms. Melanie Haiken claims that knowing whether someone you love has a problem with drugs or alcohol is not always as obvious as you might think. People tend to stereotype the typical alcoholic as someone staggering around with a bottle in … Continue reading
Impasse in Conflict Resolution Originates from Within
In my experience, Impasse in any negotiation is an outward expression of an unresolved and unconscious internal impasse or historical conflict that exists within an individual. Continue reading
Does Divorce Qualify as a Traumatic Event?
It appears that because divorce is such a frequent occurrence, many couples are simply opting out of marriage. Are some of these couples avoiding divorce because it is considered to be traumatizing? Can a commonplace occurrence such as divorce even be considered to be traumatic event? Continue reading
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