Attending and graduating from the “School of Hard Knocks” plays a key role in how a person learns to be resilient. Studies show that kids who grew up in adverse living conditions seem to demonstrate a richer depth of resilience in adulthood.
Women or men who stay entangled with aggressor partners do so because they have become brainwashed by the aggressor over time. The method of brainwashing in a verbally abusive domestic relationship is no different than the method of brainwashing used with POW’s.
When you realize that your habit is the tip of the iceberg and when you take a look at what lies beneath you can more easily navigate a course that will get you to a better and more satisfying destination.
Elton John had it right when he sang ” ‘Sorry’ seems to be the hardest word”. There are so many divorces that get held up and go sideways because one or both spouses refuse to offer up a simple, yet heartfelt apology.
Irresponsible expression of anger robs us of an emotional experience that can passionately drive forward healthy transformation and growth.
I have long proclaimed that if you don’t have your feelings, they will have you. Sure enough, research demonstrates that suppressing emotions can have serious health consequences, both physically and psychologically.
In my experience, Impasse in any negotiation is an outward expression of an unresolved and unconscious internal impasse or historical conflict that exists within an individual.