Some people substitute pity and the pedestal for their own legitimate experience of anger at someone’s bad behavior. Continue reading
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My Mother’s Father: A Deliberate and Gentle Life
This Father’s day, my mind does not go to my late father who literally ran himself into an early grave by overdoing anything and everything he did. God rest his soul; he lived addictively and it cost him his life. Life with my father may have to wait for another blog because he is actually … Continue reading
Divorce, Domestic Abuse and Brainwashing
Women or men who stay entangled with aggressor partners do so because they have become brainwashed by the aggressor over time. The method of brainwashing in a verbally abusive domestic relationship is no different than the method of brainwashing used with POW’s. Continue reading
Bad Habits: Just Stop Doing That!
When you realize that your habit is the tip of the iceberg and when you take a look at what lies beneath you can more easily navigate a course that will get you to a better and more satisfying destination. Continue reading
Have You Considered a Simple Apology?
Elton John had it right when he sang ” ‘Sorry’ seems to be the hardest word”. There are so many divorces that get held up and go sideways because one or both spouses refuse to offer up a simple, yet heartfelt apology. Continue reading
Mothers Know Compassion as the Purest Form of Love
Compassion is very dear, greatly valued and becoming so increasingly rare; people would pay high hourly rates to mental health professionals just to get some. Continue reading
Anger is Always About the One Who Feels It
Irresponsible expression of anger robs us of an emotional experience that can passionately drive forward healthy transformation and growth. Continue reading
Worry Wanes With Brainstorming
It is common knowledge that most of the things we worry about never happen. Why then does worry take up so much of many people’s time and energy? Continue reading
Signs of Addiction Can Be Subtle Among Professional Helpers
An interesting article appeared online regarding the more subtle signs of addiction. The author, Ms. Melanie Haiken claims that knowing whether someone you love has a problem with drugs or alcohol is not always as obvious as you might think. People tend to stereotype the typical alcoholic as someone staggering around with a bottle in … Continue reading
9/11 Second-Hand Shock Still an Issue a Decade Later.
Can you imagine that helping professionals are still suffering trauma responses a decade after the 9/11 tragedy? That certainly speaks to how insidious the effects of vicarious trauma can be! Continue reading
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