When you realize that your habit is the tip of the iceberg and when you take a look at what lies beneath you can more easily navigate a course that will get you to a better and more satisfying destination. Continue reading
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Have You Considered a Simple Apology?
Elton John had it right when he sang ” ‘Sorry’ seems to be the hardest word”. There are so many divorces that get held up and go sideways because one or both spouses refuse to offer up a simple, yet heartfelt apology. Continue reading
Bin Laden a Has-Been in a Culture of Trauma
Justice may have been done and we may have fought the good fight; but according to the news, Bin Laden is already a has-been and we will need to brace ourselves for whatever comes next. Continue reading
Anger is Always About the One Who Feels It
Irresponsible expression of anger robs us of an emotional experience that can passionately drive forward healthy transformation and growth. Continue reading
Worry Wanes With Brainstorming
It is common knowledge that most of the things we worry about never happen. Why then does worry take up so much of many people’s time and energy? Continue reading
Signs of Addiction Can Be Subtle Among Professional Helpers
An interesting article appeared online regarding the more subtle signs of addiction. The author, Ms. Melanie Haiken claims that knowing whether someone you love has a problem with drugs or alcohol is not always as obvious as you might think. People tend to stereotype the typical alcoholic as someone staggering around with a bottle in … Continue reading
9/11 Second-Hand Shock Still an Issue a Decade Later.
Can you imagine that helping professionals are still suffering trauma responses a decade after the 9/11 tragedy? That certainly speaks to how insidious the effects of vicarious trauma can be! Continue reading
Impasse in Conflict Resolution Originates from Within
In my experience, Impasse in any negotiation is an outward expression of an unresolved and unconscious internal impasse or historical conflict that exists within an individual. Continue reading
Does Divorce Qualify as a Traumatic Event?
It appears that because divorce is such a frequent occurrence, many couples are simply opting out of marriage. Are some of these couples avoiding divorce because it is considered to be traumatizing? Can a commonplace occurrence such as divorce even be considered to be traumatic event? Continue reading
Second-Hand Shock Impacts a Generation
I attended a sobering 60th birthday party yesterday evening. It was a large room full of aging baby-boomers: the most disappointed generation. While everyone seemed to be having a good enough time, there was an unmistakable malaise in the air. We baby boomers have had a tough pill or two to swallow. Having been born … Continue reading
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