Each individual is a sentient being. Sentient is Latin for “feeling”. All humans have wavelike feeling experiences. It is powerful to be conscious of our passionate, intense, negative emotions; because when we navigate correctly through these stormy, rough waters, we have the power to be agents of positive change and growth. If we don’t seize the … Continue reading
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Divorce and Defeating Anxiety
I just returned from LA where, with my training team, I presented a three-day training in Collaborative Divorce. One initial observation I made from this training: many divorce lawyers who practice non-collaboratively are highly anxious and strung out about their work. Throughout the training, time and again, I saw and heard professionals express levels of … Continue reading
Compliant Children of Divorce: Unwanted Lessons Learned
Children of divorce probably watch their parents lead by example more closely than the general population of children. Why? Because they simply do not know what to do, what to say, or how to feel. They may have heard the word “divorce”, but may have very limited internal resources with which they can make sense of the concept. Continue reading
Divorce and the Target of Blame
Collaborative Divorce is an efficient approach for working with a High Conflict Personality because there is the powerfully safe environment of the professional team to deal with the challenge from a multidimensional perspective. Continue reading
Divorce: the Only Moral Choice is the Collaborative Model
I believe it is the responsibility of every citizen who is considering divorce to opt for a Collaborative Divorce. This choice represents a moral and ethical decision for the integrity of our society. Continue reading
Relationships and Attachment
Some people make attachments with others that go from one extreme to the other: “I don’t want you; please don’t leave me!” They overshoot that midpoint of secure attachment and don’t get much joy or comfort from their connections with others. Continue reading
Divorce and Children: Protecting the Innocent
Divorce can become a very self-centered time for parents. I do not mean this judgmentally. There, but for the grace of God, go I. During my divorce, which took place over 25 years ago, I became so anxious for my own future, I didn’t take the time to empathize with my children’s experience and I believed they suffered as a result. Continue reading
Blended Families: “Growing Up” Together
Statistics demonstrate that more Americans are living in step-families than in nuclear families. Blended families are clearly a key ingredient of our culture; so how can we make them more successful in the long haul? Continue reading
Relationships: Disappointment Redefined
Disappointment occurs so frequently in the area of dating and love relationships; a person deserves to perceive it as a blessing rather than a burden. Continue reading
Anger Management: Pity and the Pedestal
Some people substitute pity and the pedestal for their own legitimate experience of anger at someone’s bad behavior. Continue reading
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