Children of divorce probably watch their parents lead by example more closely than the general population of children. Why? Because they simply do not know what to do, what to say, or how to feel. They may have heard the word “divorce”, but may have very limited internal resources with which they can make sense of the concept. Continue reading
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Divorce and the Target of Blame
Collaborative Divorce is an efficient approach for working with a High Conflict Personality because there is the powerfully safe environment of the professional team to deal with the challenge from a multidimensional perspective. Continue reading
Divorce: the Only Moral Choice is the Collaborative Model
I believe it is the responsibility of every citizen who is considering divorce to opt for a Collaborative Divorce. This choice represents a moral and ethical decision for the integrity of our society. Continue reading
Divorce and Children: Protecting the Innocent
Divorce can become a very self-centered time for parents. I do not mean this judgmentally. There, but for the grace of God, go I. During my divorce, which took place over 25 years ago, I became so anxious for my own future, I didn’t take the time to empathize with my children’s experience and I believed they suffered as a result. Continue reading
Divorce, Domestic Abuse and Brainwashing
Women or men who stay entangled with aggressor partners do so because they have become brainwashed by the aggressor over time. The method of brainwashing in a verbally abusive domestic relationship is no different than the method of brainwashing used with POW’s. Continue reading
Anger is Always About the One Who Feels It
Irresponsible expression of anger robs us of an emotional experience that can passionately drive forward healthy transformation and growth. Continue reading
Signs of Addiction Can Be Subtle Among Professional Helpers
An interesting article appeared online regarding the more subtle signs of addiction. The author, Ms. Melanie Haiken claims that knowing whether someone you love has a problem with drugs or alcohol is not always as obvious as you might think. People tend to stereotype the typical alcoholic as someone staggering around with a bottle in … Continue reading
Impasse in Conflict Resolution Originates from Within
In my experience, Impasse in any negotiation is an outward expression of an unresolved and unconscious internal impasse or historical conflict that exists within an individual. Continue reading
Does Divorce Qualify as a Traumatic Event?
It appears that because divorce is such a frequent occurrence, many couples are simply opting out of marriage. Are some of these couples avoiding divorce because it is considered to be traumatizing? Can a commonplace occurrence such as divorce even be considered to be traumatic event? Continue reading
Helping Professionals Reduce Work Stress Through Collaboration
I just finished training a great group of lawyers, mental health professionals and financial specialists in the process of collaboration. I had the honor of training the mental health segment for the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals in the launch of their first Basic Training. Collaboration is an alternative form of conflict resolution where an … Continue reading
